Monday, June 15, 2015
The Theory of Everything
I have been doing some thinking, trying to get to the root of it all. When did it start going bad, with the boy especially.
I noticed that he started lying in grade nine, and in grade ten, even though I had been defending him, and encouraging his father to give him freedom, and allow him to spread his wings. But he lied to me.. a lot. Then the drug use, stealing alcohol and stealing my prescription cough syrup. So I stopped doing his chores, I stopped covering for him, I stopped. I wanted him in therapy, I wanted him to have drug testing. I wanted there to be set rules, and consequences. Basically - I wanted him to be parented... and I stopped doing him favours. I wouldn't drive him anywhere, I stopped making his favourite foods (unless I wanted them). I also stopped blindly believing everything that he said to be true...
So he started blaming me... It was my fault that he stole. My fault that he did drugs. I was stealing his clothes so I wasn't to do his laundry. Everything, according to that boy was my fault.
My theory is that he is angry because I changed my behaviour. And I stopped believing him. So he turned on me.
And I am the one paying for it.
Dragonfly 6/15/2015 03:55:00 PM